A couple of years ago I took an internet marking class in college that made me decide to quit blogging. I had already been blogging for a couple of years at this point and no longer could handle it. I hated comparing myself to other bloggers and their successes. I hated looking at my stats and feeling like a failure because I couldn’t meet the goals that I had set for myself. I decided that I hated everything about blogging and shut my door to the community that I worked so hard to connect with.
I never thought that I would come out of blogging “retirement” but I’m so glad that I did! I pretty much had to build myself back up from nothing and it was rough. I let fear and self doubt crush everything that I had created and I almost let that fear win.
Blogging in the age of social media influencers is much harder than when I started this blog almost six years ago. When I started writing a blog for a college English class I never expected to love it and want to keep writing after the class was over. Having this space has become my creative outlet and all of you have become my internet friends.
Still, I find myself comparing my little piece of the internet to other’s. I feel a sense of belonging in the blogging community yet still compare my posts and pictures to everyone else’s. I cheer people on while tearing myself down because I’m a perfectionist and nothing ever feels good enough.
The blogger comparison game is real. I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way and I wanted to share how I’ve been coping with my feelings.
The wonderful bloggers who I follow are amazing people. I’ve never met them in real life but I can tell because they put so much into their writing. Instead of comparing myself to them I’ve been trying to instead put my energy into engaging and building others up too. If I follow you it’s because I honestly love reading your content and I want you to do well!
As bloggers we have the unique ability to put our thoughts out into the world in either a negative or positive way. Playing this stupid comparison game with myself was a negative behavior and it was hurting my blogging. I will probably never be a social media influencer and that’s okay. I’ll always be a shy introvert who is just happy to share her truth with the world.
Do you find yourself getting caught up in the comparison game? How do you deal with it?
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4 thoughts on “The Blogger Comparison Game”
I definitely find myself comparing what I’m doing and my blog with others. It can get so frustrating at times and sometimes I really do want to quit. My blog has grown so much and I have been trying to just focus my attention on that instead of being negative.
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YES! It is super frustrating because you don’t want to compare yourself to others but it’s hard not to. Just keep going!! 🙂
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Beautiful post hun, it’s so inspiring and brave of you to share your truth and your feelings in this way. As they say, comparisson is the thief of all joy. It’s amazing how instead of dwelling on comparing yourself to other bloggers, you’ve chosen positivity and found the strength and kindness to focus your attention on bringing others up and spreading joy. Go YOU hun! I love reading your blog, so keep on doing what you’re doing because you’re amazing, and you should be proud of yourself and your blog! You have every reason to be ❤️
Thank you so much! You are so sweet! ❤