Long Distance Sisterhood

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My sister and I are only 20 months apart so I don’t remember a time before she was born. She’s always been my built-in best friend.

Growing up our bedrooms were right next to each other and we shared a bathroom with only one sink. We have our fights and disagreements but at the end of the day, she understands me better than pretty much anyone else.

I never really thought about her moving away. I guess I just thought that we would live in the same place together forever.

And then a couple of years ago she met this guy in the Navy who she would end up marrying. It changed our family and I thought that I’d be upset about it but I’m not. I love watching her be happy.

She has now lived in New York, Hawaii, and New Hampshire. I have had the opportunity to travel to new places to visit her on a few different occasions. It’s hard being apart and I always hate when she leaves after a visit but I know she’s happy and that makes the distance worth it.

When she first decided to move with him I was worried that I wouldn’t be there if she needed me. I wouldn’t be a 20 minute drive away if there was an emergency. It’s been hard to let her go but I know that her husband is taking care of her. I also know that she’s a strong, independent woman and she doesn’t need her big sis to bail her out.

Long distance sisterhood has been hard. It’s taught me that I need to have more friends than just my sister. It’s also taught me that it’s okay to set boundaries with family.

We didn’t have the hardest childhood but we had our challenges that we got through them together. Adulthood presents another set of challenges and even though we aren’t together geographically anymore I know that we will still get through it together.

Do you have any siblings? How do you handle growing apart as you get older?

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5 thoughts on “Long Distance Sisterhood

  1. Sejal Sheth says:

    This resonated SO MUCH for me! I have two sisters and all three of us live in different places. It’s hard being far from them but I love the times that we get together and it only makes it more meaningful! My little sister just moved to the other side of the US and it was so hard saying goodbye. Thanks for sharing!

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  2. Hilary Tan says:

    I’m an only child. My childhood was lonely growing up and I don’t want my daughter being an only child like me. It wasn’t fun. My mom wasn’t close to her siblings even though she has a twin sister so she assumes that nobody nobody a strong sisterhood connection and therefore, being an only child is only logical. Being an only child sucked and still does. I don’t have friends other than my husband. We move around a lot so it’s hard to keep friends. I’ve gotten used to being a loner because I’ve always been this way.

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  3. Olivia says:

    Not a sibling, but my best friend lives in the US and I live in England. She’s like my sister. Its hard sometimes not having her right here, especially when going through the not so great parts of life. I feel like I appreciate the friendship more because of that though. And we have learnt how to keep our bond and friendship strong over 9 years now! 🙂

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