Stop Telling Me To “Toughen Up”

I was recently told that I needed to “toughen up” which is all fine and dandy but that’s just not who I am. I am sensitive, empathetic, and emotional. I care deeply and I want to put my best foot forward each and everyday. I will never be tough and that’s okay.

Instead of trying to cram myself into a box with other people’s expectations I’ve decided to spend some more time exploring who I am as a person. I’ve been feeling really down and unmotivated lately so I want to find something that makes me feel alive again.

My whole life I have felt like something was wrong with me because I’m sensitive. This is who I am and I can’t change it. I’ve tried to toughen up for years by taking anti-depressants and seeing therapists but I can’t change my personality.

I used to wish that I could turn all of my feelings off. I wanted to have no emotions at all. I want to stop feeling this way. I want to just be okay with who I am.

This world will always be too harsh for me but I’m willing to continue to fight for my place in it.

Have you ever been told to “toughen up”?

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4 thoughts on “Stop Telling Me To “Toughen Up”

  1. Chanelle says:

    You are not alone and just because you’re sensitive you shouldn’t be made to feel inadequate, it means you have a soft heart and you’re probably kinder than most people ❤
    I know where you're coming from as people may describe me in a similar way but the reality is I know I'm not weak and I'm stronger mentally than a lot of people think. Focus on yourself and looking after your needs, treat yourself with kindness and say nice things when you look in the mirror. Fake it until you make it! I'm sorry you're going through a rough patch but you can do this!

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  2. 50shad3s0fjay says:

    Exactly what Chantelle said! Besides, I think this post proves just how strong you are! Babe, never change who you are unless it’s for YOU, you are perfect the way you are and exactly who you need to be! ❤️❤️❤️ so long as you are honouring yourself being true to who you are, then you’re winning babe! Sending lots of love you beautiful soul, I’m proud of you for sharing this ❤️

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  3. says:

    Yes, I have been told such stupid things and I have tried to change myself but it made me feeling weird and gross. I feel comfortable in who I am. If people can’t accept me, that’s their problem, not mine. The question is why are you trying to change yourself for others? What are you hoping to gain from that?

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  4. Priya Prakash says:

    Yeah, you are not alone. I think all the sensitive people must have heard this same lame sentence throughout their life. I have heard it a lot. But what can I do I can’t change what I am. For a long time I felt as if something is wrong with me. But then I realized it’s the people who are wrong. Sensitivity is a part of my personality and I am proud of it.

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