The Blogger Comparison Game

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A couple of years ago I took an internet marking class in college that made me decide to quit blogging. I had already been blogging for a couple of years at this point and no longer could handle it. I hated comparing myself to other bloggers and their successes. I hated looking at my stats and feeling like a failure because I couldn’t meet the goals that I had set for myself. I decided that I hated everything about blogging and shut my door to the community that I worked so hard to connect with.

I never thought that I would come out of blogging “retirement” but I’m so glad that I did! I pretty much had to build myself back up from nothing and it was rough. I let fear and self doubt crush everything that I had created and I almost let that fear win.

Blogging in the age of social media influencers is much harder than when I started this blog almost six years ago. When I started writing a blog for a college English class I never expected to love it and want to keep writing after the class was over. Having this space has become my creative outlet and all of you have become my internet friends.

Still, I find myself comparing my little piece of the internet to other’s. I feel a sense of belonging in the blogging community yet still compare my posts and pictures to everyone else’s. I cheer people on while tearing myself down because I’m a perfectionist and nothing ever feels good enough.

The blogger comparison game is real. I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way and I wanted to share how I’ve been coping with my feelings.

The wonderful bloggers who I follow are amazing people. I’ve never met them in real life but I can tell because they put so much into their writing. Instead of comparing myself to them I’ve been trying to instead put my energy into engaging and building others up too. If I follow you it’s because I honestly love reading your content and I want you to do well!

As bloggers we have the unique ability to put our thoughts out into the world in either a negative or positive way. Playing this stupid comparison game with myself was a negative behavior and it was hurting my blogging. I will probably never be a social media influencer and that’s okay. I’ll always be a shy introvert who is just happy to share her truth with the world.

Do you find yourself getting caught up in the comparison game? How do you deal with it?

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Coming Out of Retirement

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For the last year or so I have considered myself to be a “retired blogger.” Blogging was something that I just didn’t have time for and I honestly had lost the desire to keep writing about myself. I felt like no one cared and that I couldn’t compete with all the other bloggers out there. I thought maybe I would come out of “retirement” one day with guns blazing and this new amazingly re-branded website. And maybe that will still happen one day but for today I will just try to do the best that I can.

The reason I want to start writing again is simple. I am about to turn 24 and I started this blog as a way to document the 25 things I wanted to do before turning 25. With my 25th year quickly approaching I figured it was time to kick my booty in gear and get this list done.

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So, here I am. A lot has changed since my last post and maybe I’ll write about all of that one day. For starters, I graduated from college, started a career, moved into my first adult apartment, and got married! Life has been very exciting for me and I am happy to start blogging again!

 

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